Quoting Michael Loo to Nancy Backus on 11-14-18 18:22 <=-

It can be a fine balance... helping without enabling, giving without being totally spent...

And caring whether you can do anything about
it or not, that's an issue as well.

True... although in my case, it's almost always a given.... ;)

The caring part, which I'd assume, or the being able
to do anything?

Caring whether I might be able....

With me at least it's the ability that is to
worry about.

It's getting to that point here, too...

So I went to rehearsal the other day,
and this guy I hadn't seen in a while started talking
about his bipolar spouse (I first wrote souse), and I
flashed back to the day a few years ago when he, totally
smitten, introduced her to me as his wife-to-be, and I had
to bite my tongue to avoid saying "trouble and strife-to-be."

Only a few years ago, eh... And you weren't close enough friends to be
able to give the warning.... not that he would have listened anyway, probably... until it was too late.....

"Never tell a man the truth about the one that
he adores." - Flanders and Swann, The Armadillo
I could imagine it. [Looking the girl up and
down] "You know what, John, she'll never do.
You'll live to regret this." As if.

In the past, a friend of mine has asked for my input on some new beau...
I answer honestly, knowing that she probably won't really listen at that point... but there have been a few that I had severe misgivings about...
She's always come back to me later to say, yeah, you told me so... I
don't have to even say anything.... But if not asked, yeah, I keep my misgivings to myself generally....

Possible... and far enough away to not have regular oversight by the owners the way that the Rochester regional stores would have....

Yeah, oversight may be an issue; also a change in
economic climate as the fracking industry began to bust
there without adequate replacement.

Of course, that store was already there before the fracking crews
arrived, though....

It was probably established during some
previous boom period. Some of Weggie's
success is that it has not been blindly
optimistic about the economics of a place.

Could well be.... and agreed on their willingness to be realistic about
the economics...

I meant more that we lost the Kodak benefits when he was laid off... not that they were diminishing at that point... And that we were rather surprised that the Wegmans benefits were even better....

I envisioned the layoffs as a harbinger of those
contractionary times that ensued. Did Kodak offer
any sort of bridge plan, or did you have to COBRA it
on your own?

Health insurance for I think a few months, then we had to COBRA. They
did give him a full year's pay for the separation.... The retirees
actually suffered more, as later Kodak reneged on paying their health
care as they went into bankruptcy....

I wonder how one could safeguard such programs
from the effects of their parents' bankruptcy -
establishing an independent fund, perhaps.

The annuity pension was handled independently... so he still was able to
get that... not as full as it would have been had they kept him another
year or so, but still viable....

Odd, but why not:
Title: Beaver Tails
Categories: Appetizers

Definitely less odd... ;)

But becoming odder all the time. The day will
come when insect protein will be standard fare,
but mammalian game will not.

Hopefully not in my lifetime.... although I've nothing really against
some insect supplementation... ;)

ttyl neb

... The more things change, the more they remain ... insane -- Fry & Lewis

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